How Sez Sees It

2016 is a year that should be remembered for a VERY long time. There has to be a reason that it is so shit and I will try and figure it out so bear with me because I am by no means an expert, but I will give it my best shot. Death: First of all there are all the celeb deaths. We have lost some great people this year like Bowie and Rickman but actually there seem to have been more than ever before. The reason for this, as I think I have previously mentioned, is that they were all baby boomers. They all started their careers around the same time and they all lived a certain hedonistic lifestyle in their earlier years. The 70's in particular were a time of experimental drugs, booze and sex. A time when these people dying now were in their 20's and that is a time when you feel indestructible. The reality is that this behaviour can have an effect years later. That of course and we consider people in their 60's to be young nowadays because we have the ability to keep peopl...

Annus horribilis - Latin for a year of disaster or misfortune. This would certainly seem to be the case as I can see it. I was going to make this blog about the high profile celebrity deaths we have seen but when I stopped to think about it I realised that there were other things that fit this category and are in need of a mention. I will come to the celebs last. I want to mention the other things first. 2016 has been described as annus horribilis in the press recently in regards to the high profile deaths but there are other events that have happened in recent months that contribute to that title. The most recent events have been the two massive earthquakes in Ecuador and the two massive ones in Japan. Both have happened over the last week and have brought wide spread destruction, death and injury to both locations. Japan had only recently marked the five years since the large earthquake and tsunami that struck in 2011 and caused death and destruction on an unprecedented scale and...

Singer Rita Ora lately admitted to getting therapy for her fear of death. I know you all know I have death anxiety (as it is really known) too. I won't go into detail again. No need. I want to commend Ora for admitting and talking about something many of us fear and few admit to. We should talk about it. Death is the one guarantee of life. Some of us, like Ora and myself, do not turn to the comfort of religion. We are stuck with the knowledge of its finality. It is debilitating and scary beyond words. Read my previous blog for more information but thank you Rita Ora for being brave enough to talk about something many of us do not. I too have had the therapy and the long thoughts and discussions. I totally understand where she is coming from.

Studies have shown that we become aware of our own mortality between the ages of 3 - 8 years old. This is when we become self-aware and so we begin to realise that our lives will end and we must die. I am no exception. At the age of 3 I began to fear death after seeing an article on day-time magazine show 'This Morning' about a house fire that had killed someone. At 15 it happened again while I was watching crappy soap 'Crossroads'. One of the major characters was killed off with a heart attack (later it turned out they were very popular and the whole thing had been faked...that was a death...the death of any remaining credibility in the show and so it was cancelled). At 22 I was in a terrible relationship that left me worried I was wasting my life and that I would be better off either dead or out of the relationship. I was scared I had achieved nothing and that this man had wasted my time and my life. My self-esteem was at an all time low. I finally got round it with...